Do we say YES or NO to doing god's will in our life?

Now if I were our singing deacon Don Germano, I would begin by singing Frank Sinatra’s “I did it my way.”  “And more, much more than this, I did it my way.”  There is something life-affirming about doing it “my way,” charting one’s own path, following one’s conscience and not compromising one’s values along the way.

And yet, when we think about it in the light of today’s Scriptures, we are called not to do it my way but to “Do it God’s way.”  Doing it God’s way is what it means to be a disciple of Jesus.   Jesus in following the path of the cross chose to do it God’s way.

In the second Scripture reading, Paul begins his beautiful hymn to Christ by encouraging the Philippians to have the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose as did Jesus. 

“Have in you the same attitude that is also in Christ Jesus.  Who, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God something to be grasped.  Rather, he emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, coming in human likeness; he humbled himself, becoming obedient even to the point of death, even death on a cross.

For us, even when we lose our way and fall into sin, the mercy of God is on display in the Gospel parable.  In the parable, one son says no to the father’s request to work in the vineyard but later changed his mind and his ways. He started out doing it his way but experienced the conversion of changing direction and then did it God’s way.

In the Gospel parable, the first son said:  “No” “I will not.”  It’s too hot out there.  Locusts may destroy it tomorrow.  The town is a lot more interesting than the vineyard.

What are today’s versions of saying no to the will of God in our lives?  I can’t bother with religion.  I’m too busy getting ahead in life.  I’m too busy having fun.  The Church has too many defects.  Or I have nothing against organized religion, but I really don’t need it to have a relationship with God.

Later the first son changed his mind, as do many Catholics today.  Some reasons:  wanting the sacraments for their children; the gentle, respectful influence of another person; increased maturity; a close encounter with death or serious injury; recovery from a serious illness.

I invite you to reflect upon your conversion story and hopefully you can discover God in the changes of your life.  What does conversion mean to me?  Our first response is not always the best.  Thanks be to God, conversion is a lifelong journey.

I have been struck by the words of Mark Twain who once said:  “When I was a boy of 14,  my father was  so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around.  But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.

Just as Mark Twain had a conversion experience about the wisdom of his dad,  so too, we have a conversion experience about the meaning of our discipleship of the Lord Jesus. 

The conversion I have experienced as a priest.  As a young priest, the illusion I sometimes lived under that everything depended on me and my ability.  The older I get I recognize more clearly this is God’s work.  Everything depends on God’s grace working in me and in others.

As we reflect this weekend on our commitment to the diocesan Catholic Ministries Appeal this weekend, does the CMA tie into the Gospel message of conversion or is Father Jim just going to force this situation in asking your support of the CMA.

I would suggest that how we use and share the blessings we have been given is a significant component of our conversion story.  Like the sons in the Gospel, are we saying yes or no to God’s way in our life.  How we use the financial resources we have is a very spiritual question.   Jesus is very clear on the Gospel message that we have been given, we have given to share.  Love is the first requirement of being a disciple of Jesus.  Love is shown in the actions of our life.  Are we aware and responsive  to the poor and to those who are in need?  I have never met a person in my 72 years who regrets being generous in the ways we love one another.

Discipleship is placing Christ first in our lives  -- first in regard to finances, relationships, use of our time, and in all other ways.  Just as a young child has a hard time learning how to share his toys, so too we as adults can have a hard time sharing from our financial resources.  

In the Gospel, Jesus said:  “Amen, l say to you, tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God before you.”  Because the tax collectors and prostitutes accepted the forgiveness Jesus offered them, they were able to change in ways that would have been unthinkable before that.  We too will experience conversion as we accept the forgiveness God offers us.

In the Gospel the two sons were told to go out and work in the vineyard today.  As you pray over this Gospel, into what vineyard is the Lord sending you today – the vineyard of your family, of your neighborhood, of your parish, the vineyard of supporting the CMA 

I dedicate myself to the task of being all the things I want my parish to be.

A PARISHIONER’S PRAYER

My parish is composed of people like me.

I help make it what it is.

It will be friendly, if I am.

It will be holy, if I am.

Its pews will be willed, if I help fill them.

It will do great work, if I work.

It will be prayerful, if I am.

It will make generous gifts to many causes

If I am a generous giver.

It will bring others into its worship, if I invite and bring them.

It will be a parish of loyalty and love,

Of fearlessness and faith,

Of compassion, charity, and mercy,

If I, who make it what it is,

Am filled with these same things.

Therefore, with the help of God,

I now dedicate myself to the task of being all the things

That I want my parish to be.  Amen.

The Exaltation of the Holy Cross and the exaltation of the crosses we experience.

Before or after our liturgies, I find most beautiful and most sacred the simple gesture of a mom teaching her son or daughter to make the sign of the cross from the water of our baptismal font.  The sign of the cross is a simple and most significant prayer for us as the disciples of Jesus.  Even though it is far beyond a child’s capacity to understand, the sign of the cross represents the power of God and the gift of eternal life.  This simple sign reflects the mystery of God’s unending love in the life of this beautiful  child.

Equally it is profoundly moving for me at the beginning of the baptismal rite to welcome the child about to be baptized into the Christian community. I say:  “In its name I claim you for Christ our Savior by the sign of the cross.  I now make the sign of the cross on your forehead and invite your parents and godparents to do the same.  And so, the child to be baptized is five times blesses by the sign of the cross  -- this most central symbol of our Catholic faith.

Today’s Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross embodies a great mystery.  Like the people of Israel in the first reading, we are called to a long journey to the Promised Land of Heaven.  Like them, too can lose patience and fall into sin.  Like them, our only hope for salvation is to cling to God’s unending mercy and love.

The Gospel for this feast reminds us of the meaning of this great mystery:  God so loved the world that he gave his only Son that might be saved.   As said in the children’s book THE LITTLE PRINCE:  “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly.  What is essential is invisible to the eye.”  Our parish message this Sunday and in the upcoming Sundays is YES “it is only with the heat that cone can see rightly.  The conversion we seek as the disciples of Jesus is a conversion of our hearts.

That conversion happens in our prayer over the mystery of the cross – this sign of God’s self-giving love for us.  The mystery of God’s emptying and self-giving love for us is seen in the mystery of the cross.

The conversion of the heart that we seek is to keep the eyes of our hearts fixed on something that gives us life.  It is no longer the snake, as for the Jews, who gives life and saves us from death, but the passion and death of our Lord Jesus Christ.  With the eyes of faith we do not see the cross only as an instrument of torture, but a symbol  of God’s self-giving love.

In the Gospel of John, Jesus says:  In my Father’s house there are many mansions and I am going to prepare a place for you.  Jesus’ promise of a home for us means a communion of life with Him.  This communion of life with Jesus has begun to be realized from his pierced side on the cross.  Indeed, this is a great mystery for us  -- a sign of hope and a sign of exaltation.

St Paul expressed this great mystery in the second Scripture reading:  “Christ Jesus, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God something to be grasped.  Rather, he emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, coming in human likeness; he humbled himself, becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross.  Because of this, God greatly exalted him.

The tire hits the road for us in our discipleship of Jesus is when we experience the cross in our lives  -- the cross of illness, the cross of death, the cross of the brokenness of our spirit, of loneliness, of depression, not experiencing the love we seek and we need.

Jesus emptied himself and accepted and embraced the cross out of love for us.  How does that work for us.  Are there we accept and embrace the crosses of our lives?  In fact, embracing the cross leads us to deeper life in Christ and the mystery of God’s love.

There was a time in my life when I was a big-time runner.  I use to run in marathons and running was part of my daily routine.  On many Saturdays, I would run in 10 k races.   It was physically and spiritually energizing.  In time, running took a toll on my knees.  To the point, I could no longer run and in fact needed knee replacements in both knees.  Indeed this was a cross to bear.  Did I accept and embrace this weakness and use it as an opportunity to unite myself more deeply with the cross of Christ.

I would be overly pious if I said this was beautiful and I embraced this cross in life.  The truth is most of us do not choose the crosses of life that come our way.  It takes a long time to process suffering. However we are not to stop living when crosses becomes part of our life experience.   And certainly, there are far worse life experiences than knee replacements.  But for me and for all of us, I need to play the cards that are dealt.  The truth of our lives Jesus accompanies us in the pain and the losses of our lives.  The truth is Jesus promises the fullness of life.  The sufferings we experience, the losses and struggles we endure do lead us to a deeper life in Christ.  Through them we become more aware of who we are, people who stand in need of God’s healing grace.  We carry within ourselves the dying and rising of Jesus.

St Paul says:  “Therefore I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions and distress for Christ:  for when I am weak, then I am strong.”  It is though the experience of the cross of life that our discipleship of the Lord Jesus becomes very genuine.  At some point in the life of the young child whom mom is teaching to make the sign of the cross from our baptismal font, at some point the cross is going to become real in this person’s, I pray that this person will be able to see with the eyes of a faith-filled heart to be able to embrace this cross and so become more trusting in God’s unending love.

Today w celebrate the Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross.  Indeed, Jesus was exalted as he hung upon the cross -- exalted because of his self-giving love that led to his glorification by his heavenly Father.  We too are exalted when we join our cross with the cross of Jesus who leads us to a deeper sharing in God's unending love for us.

Because we are made in God's image and likeness, we seek to be a community of love, healing, and reconciliaiton

A fundamental spiritual truth is that all of life comes from God. We are made in God’s image and likeness. That being so we need to pay attention to the fundamental truth that God is a community of Persons, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, each with their own characteristics but at the same time in mutual interdependency. Being excessively independent is not God-like.

At times we see ourselves and make our choices as autonomous individuals, accountable to no one else, all by ourselves. But isn’t it true that this attitude many times causes us trouble? Examine your life and see whether or not the “going it alone” approach has generally speaking led you into unhappiness and pain.

Living in interdependency with others isn’t something we have easily acquired. When we were little children we had learn to put aside words like “my,” “me,” and “mine.” In our teen years we struggled with self-centeredness while at the same time seeking to belong. Then we had to figure out to whom we wanted to belong. Some people have never adequately answered that question even on into their adult lives. Who am I? How do others see me? Am I popular? Am I attractive? Do others like to be around me?

And what about criticism, especially when I am the person being criticized. For some of us, any criticism is devastating. Actually, if we want to excel, we should seek out people whom we respect and ask them evaluate, to criticize and mentor us. The sad truth is that many of us never really figure out who we really are, where and with whom we belong, and what our lives are really all about.

Criticism is important for our growth, criticism however that is motivated out of care and concern. Coaches criticize their athletes. Teachers, good teachers, criticize their students. All who want to excel and grow actually welcome and even seek out criticism. This is something those who “go it alone” miss. They don’t grow. They don’t excel. Receiving loving criticism is one of the great benefits we receive when we belong to others in mutual, shared living. God’s blessings come to us in that way.

Criticism that is harsh, negative, and belittling defeats the very purpose of Christian living. It is damaging not only to the one criticized but also undermines what Jesus is all about. He seeks growth, not diminishment. He wants to build us up, not put us down. How sad it is to see one Christian group belittling or condemning other Christian groups. How sad it is to see one Christian spouse belittling or condemning his or her wife or husband. Tearing down is not building up the Christian family. Why would anyone who is thinking about becoming a Christian want to join us if they are seeing that in how we relate to others?

It is never easy to admit our wrongdoing.  It is even harder when someone else points out our faults.  Nevertheless, the love we share as believers in Jesus compels us to care enough for one another that we are willing to take that risk.  Today, Matthew tells us how to go about this often painful process.

In today’s Gospel, Jesus said:  “If your brother sins against you, go and tell his fault between you and him alone.  If he listens to you, you have won over your brother.  If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, so that every fact may be established on the testimony of two or three witnesses.  If he refuses to listen to them, tell the Church.”

In the Gospel the community has worked out a process whereby those who sinned might be made aware of their sin, then seek forgiveness and be reconciled to God and to their brothers and sisters in Christ.

What is crucial in understanding today’s Gospel is the process seeks not to exclude the offending party but to reconcile and restore this person to the community.  It is all about healing, forgiving and reconciling.

The community of Rochester needs the grace for a healing and reconciling process.  With the tragic shooting death of the Rochester police officer, Darryl Piersons, we are shocked by the violent death of one who has given his life to protect and serve the citizens of Rochester.  He was a husband, a father of two young children, and an outstanding police officer.  This hits close to home for me as I have two nephews who are Rochester police officers.  Each is married and each has four young children along with their wives.

How do we deal with such violence on the streets?  To answer with more violence is not a Gospel way of living.

As we pay attention to our inner journey, we become aware that the spirit of God’s love and healing dwells deep in our hearts.  When we hear with the ears of our heart, we desire to share forgiveness and reconciliation and healing with all people.  When we hear with the ears of our heart, there is no place for pettiness, judgments, ill-will, prejudice, and hatred among us.

St. John, The Apostle of Love, famously put it this way:

 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. (John 3:17).

You are sent in Jesus’ name to do just that.

How to deal with the tragic death of Police Officer Daryl Pierson?

Daryl Pierson is a hero.  He is a husband, a dad, and a brave police officer whose commitment was to save and protect lives?

How are we to make sense of this senseless shooting that took his life?  While we are all in a state  of shock, to answer this act of violence with more violence is not a Gospel way of living.  The community of Rochester needs a sense of solidarity that we are a community of people who care about one another.  We need the grace that comes from God for healing and reconciliation.

May we all pray for the inner strength to know the spirit of God's love and healing dwells deep in our hearts.  When we can hear with the ears of our hearts, we desire to share forgiveness and reconciliation and healing with all people.

May we as a community rally around the family and friends of Daryl Pierson.  May we show our loving support to his family in this time of grieving.  May w also commit ourselves to pray for an end of the violence and conflict on the streets of our beloved city.